Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Difference in opinion probably is the main reason that makes it so hard to talk to each other. Whenever we have similar thoughts, opinions and view on an issue, it is easier for us to talk to each other because we find that the other party agree with us, they have the same idea that we have. Hence, we will feel that this other person understand us well and we feel more comfortable talking with them. On the other hand, if the other person disagree with us, we might feel offended, or uncomfortable to communicate with him or her. Moreover, we don't know how they will interpret our opinion. Some might accept it, but some might not. In 'Thousand Years of Good Prayers', Mr Shi and his daughter rarely talk to each other, simply because they do not share same opinion.
Besides opinion, one factor contributing to communication failure is maybe because one is not comfortable to talk to another party. They rather not talk about it at all or else, they will end up feeling awkward to the other person. For instance, in the story, Mr Shi tried to help her daughter overcome her sadness, he wanted to know what went wrong with his daughters' marriage but his daughter refused to talk about it as she did not feel comfortable talking to his father regarding her broken marriage. Also in the story, Mr Shi said that, "talking is telling people how you feel about them, and inviting them to tell you how they feel about you", perhaps Mr Shi's daughter find the idea of sharing her feelings with his own father is not a suitable approach to fix their father-daughter relationship. Maybe she finds it's useless to talk about her feelings now as they never talk about it all this while.
A person's background and upbringing may also be one of the factor that makes it so hard to talk to each other. In the story, Mr Shi's daughter was brought up in a language that she never used to express her feelings. She also claimed that her parents never talked even when they were having problem. Thus, she was influenced by her parents' quietness and she too ended up being quiet. Moreover, to some people, they are afraid to share their feelings as others might misinterpret it.
To break the emotional wall, one must put efforts to get to know the other person. As for Mr Shi's case, preferably he should try to talk to his daughter more frequently. However, he shouldn't force her too much as this will only lead to an argument. Besides if he wants to break the wall, he too must open up to his daughter, which means he also need to share his feelings with his daughter. By doing this, his daughter may finds it easier to open up as well, and thus, she will talk too. When both of them are comfortable to share their feelings, then only they can break the wall which separate them all this while. It is important too that they need to understand each other well to avoid any miscommunication. When we know a person well enough then only we know their response and hence, we're able to converse comfortably.
Sunday, July 26, 2009
Besides the odour which tried to kill my receptors, there's other things trying to kill my brain cells and neurons too. Test and more test. We sat for applicable maths test on Monday. Probability is not my favourite, I must say, but it does challenge me. Like solving a riddle or playing some IQ games, I'm quite like the challenge of it but of course, not in test. I need to think a lot, like every possible ways of arranging whatever thingy they gave us in question. Not to forget, the complicated tree diagram. Friday was another test, Physics. Another major headache for me. I should feel glad my brain did not explode on that wonderful Friday morning. I still can't face the fact that I'm unable to get the orbital radius, R for the last question. I messed up the last part. Time's up. Chances gone. Move on people. We're going to sit another test next week, Economics and I pray for the best. Hopefully government policies and regulations are not as complicated as the probabilty of getting blue marble. Besides, I hope that calculating the income tax for middle income earner is not as hard as calculating the orbital radius. I'm not being prejudice to these subjects and I believe there's no such thing as being prejudice towards studies. I love blue marbles as much as I love red marbles and I love gravity and satellites and Neptune too. Most of all, I still love English :D
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Now that we're already in the second semester, the pressure is increasing significantly. Everyone's trying their hard to study. We have less than 5 months to go. Ausmat is damn short and tough. With my midterm results, I guess it's enough to remind me that I should put in more efforts and my marks for the internal assessments need to be more consistent. Well, that's what all the lecturers said during the parent-teacher meeting. The special meeting was held last saturday and as usual, I've prepared myself for those instant-and-endless lectures from my beloved parent. The meeting went well, and finally my parent got to see my results for the first semester. My dad commented that I should have done better for my economics and english. He always emphasizes on those two subjects, because those two were his favourite and best subjects he scored back then and so he expects me to be good at it too. My mum concerned more on my attitudes, as for every lecturer she'll be asking whether I was noisy or did I sleep in class..huh..she still think of my attitude in school before. I was a bit loud, and I hate to sit at one place, I love to migrate in class and in between classes as well...skipping class was my favourite especially for bio.Talkative as I was before, my mum always got this comment from my school teacher. However, I think I'm 'good' now..haha.so mum shouldn't be worried I guess. I never skip class here.
Friday, June 19, 2009
She was a little girl
With big dreams and hopes
She was a little girl
Who believes in fairytales
And her credence upon fairytales was intense
She had no worries
All she kept were sweet memories
Her sweet smile
Her melodious voice
Her laughter and joy
Her warm eyes
Those never lies
But oh dear
Life isn't always wonderful
She was fooled
She was hurt
Her dreams were shattered
Her heart filled with hatred
Under the dark sky
She stood still
As rain washed away her sorrow
And fell to the ground
As I held her cold hand
She asked, "how do I stand?"
Like a burning flame
Her anger and frustration
Are to be blame
Her tears never stop
But her faith remain unshaken
To prove her spirit to the very core
Her resilience and endurance
Though none go with her
She has no more fear
Voices echoed in her mind
To purge these abiding memories
To efface these acrimonious memories
To keep holding on...
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Saturday, May 16, 2009
With all these unfinished assignments, presentation and whatsoever homework which are still lining up on the table waiting for me to take them. I have no idea where to start and I ended up updating my blog. Never mind, at least I'm writing academic blog, so I considered it as doing homework as well. I'm reading up on euthanasia too and it's really cracked my head because I keep thinking how people can choose to die and how they make their decisions? All these questions keep running in my head since last week when I started to read up about it and now, somehow, I felt a bit disturbed since all I keep thinking is only DEATH.
Ok enough about the death. ( i'm scared now )
Fighting with myself is what I'm currently doing at this moment. Laziness is killing me but I must disagree with that. I'm not as lazy as I used to be when I was in high school. And I'm pretty sure I've improved in terms of my hardwork when I entered college. Therefore, I assume that as I have worked harder, the outcomes supposedly should be better. Truth to be told, my marks are not that good and why? As clearly stated up there, I'm feeling numb. Perhaps I'm just too tired studying and trying hard to achieve good results. But who would not want that right. Economics presentation on Monday followed by Physics test on Tuesday, Economics test on Wednesday and persuasive speech on Thursday. Life's great. Let's get started.
HAPPY STUDYING to all ausmat students.
May we obtain great results in mid-term examination =D
Friday, May 8, 2009
Though I think it's not really a 'vacation', but at least all of us could get away from Bandar Utama and forget about our never-ending studies. 3days-and-2 night stay were full of adventures, experiences and fun. I totally forgot about our studies and of course had fun playing around and enjoyed the activities.
Besides that, the camp was the only opportunity we had to bond with each other. At the camp, we were divided into groups in which we got to know other students as well, especially those of different classes. There were many activities organised by the committee members. But what made me excited the most were jungle trekking and flying fox. Not only this time, in a few previous camp that I went, these two activities were my favourite too. This time around I must admit that the jungle-trekking was extremely great! We went up the 'virgin' jungle and spent almost 3 hours trekking! Being close to nature make me feel calm and I could relax myself, though it's a bit tiring when climbing up the hill. I enjoyed listening to singing birds, walking through tiny path of the jungle, with the smell of the soil and seeing the beauty of green floras. And at that moment..I said to myself "oh how wonderful life is, why can't I feel all these in BU?" Of course you won't hear anything such that in BU. The only thing you hear in BU was the honking of neighbours' cars, and the annoying sound from the construction sites nearby our house.
Then there's also a long bridge that we've crossed. Although I'm afraid of height, I managed to cross the bridge twice. It was pretty scary though. At first, I tried not to look down and walk as usual, but as I reached the middle of the bridge, I was very scared that I can't hardly balance myself. The rope on which I stand on was shaking and at that time, I thought I was going to fall down ( drama queen again! ) and my hand can't even grip the side rope tightly. I walked slower than before so as to balance myself.
Flying fox was another thing that I was looking forward to since we arrived there. I was with Natto when we were 'flying'. All we need to do is just scream and shout out loud, it's almost the same as riding a roller coaster, but this only last or about 5 to 6 seconds. Unfortunately, I did not bring along my camera to take video of us 'flying'.
I wish I could go back there. The place was very peaceful and calm. There's no rush and everything seems pretty wonderful. Fresh, cool air in the morning, and the water was very cool. It felt like a beautiful dream and how I wish I do not have to wake up. Overall, the camp was like a 'break' for us to release stress and give a rest to ourselves.